"Beating" a Cyber Bully

October 12, 2018

I am sure you looked twice at the heading of today's topic. Seems like I suggest you fight fire with fire. lol Let me put your mind at rest. I hate any form of violence. In this little write-up I would like to share some positive steps we all can take to successfully deal with cyber bullies. 

Using the Internet, a mobile phone or a camera to hurt or embarrass someone is considered cyber bullying. It can be shared widely with a lot of people quickly, which is why it is so dangerous and hurtful. 

In reality we can all become a victim of this problem, young or old. This is a worldwide problem and it is good to know there are many websites that are just waiting to support anyone who falls victim to this problem. (Links used in my research are at the bottom of this page)

Being safe from bullies online:

  • Do not share your private information like passwords, name and address, phone numbers with people you don’t know. This can also include sharing of photos of yourself, your friends and your family
  • Don’t respond to messages when you are angry or hurt - either to strangers and also to people you know. This will often encourage them to continue or increase their harassment of you
  • Log out and stop messaging if you feel you are being harassed
  • Remember you have the option to block, delete and report anyone who is harassing you online and on your mobile
  • Find out how to report bullying and harassment on each of the different social networks that you use
  • Keep a record of calls, messages, posts and emails that may be hurtful or harmful to you
  • Remember to set up the privacy options on your social networking sites like Facebook in a way you are comfortable with.

The way we react to rude or insensitive messages might contribute to the problem of cyber bullying. So it is good to remember the following when we are using emails, social media and even texting:

1.  Nothing ever goes away once it is posted online.
2. “If you're insulting people on the internet, you must be ugly on the inside.” 
3. Before you Post, THINK

  • T: Is It TRUE?
  • H: Is It Helpful?
  • I: Is It Inspiring?
  • N: Is It Necessary?
  • K: Is It Kind?
Bullying is learned behavior, and anything learned can be unlearned.

    May we all take good care of ourselves, our loved ones and ensure that we do not become part of the problem of cyber bullying but rather part of the solution to it.

    Happy Stitching

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